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6 Things That Drive Day Care Workers Crazy

Updated: Feb 13, 2022 This is the link for the full article from the New York Times

Ritualize your drop-off routine, and nix the long goodbye.

“Parents are responsible for their children’s health and well-being. When they place their children in the care of others, they experience a loss of control that may lead to anxiety, especially when their children cling to them,” Lauren R. Shapiro, Ph.D., a cognitive and developmental psychologist at John Jay College of Criminal Justice" "The longer you stay during drop-off, the more anxiety and pain you cause your child, which exacerbates stress levels all around"

Ask to modify, not eliminate, nap time.

"Requesting that day care workers skip nap time so your child sleeps easier at night hits the rawest nerve, so don’t ask!" “That’s our time to regroup and get things done, and we need a break!” According to childcare regulations, children need to take a rest from the day. TITLE 89: SOCIAL SERVICES SECTION 407.350 NAPPING AND SLEEPING

Infants and toddlers 0-3 years of age, shall be allowed to rest or sleep according to each child's individual pattern, as determined in consultation with parents.

Children 3 years of age and older (until they are enrolled in kindergarten) generally shall not nap for more than 2 hours or rest without sleeping for more than 60 minutes. Children in this age group who do not sleep may be permitted to get up and shall be helped to have a quiet time with equipment or activities that will not disturb the napping children.

Children under 6 years of age who are not enrolled in kindergarten or elementary school who remain 5 or more hours shall have the opportunity to rest or nap.

Kindergarten and school-age children shall not be required to sleep or nap. However, floor pillows, sofa, carpet, bean bag chairs, padded chairs, or cots shall be provided for lounging or resting.

Reinforce good social behaviors at home.

Building social skills at home that jibe with creating a more harmonious day care experience for both kids and teachers. Use every opportunity to foster lessons in sharing, losing gracefully, respecting the environment, respecting others, taking upon responsibilities, and cleaning up if you make a mess: Give kids as young as 2 small tasks like putting a dish on the table or a piece of garbage in the trash.

Share your parental and familial struggles.

"While divulging difficulties in your personal life may seem inappropriate and off-limits, in some circumstances, it’s critical to helping day care workers effectively manage and nurture your child." Megaughey said, recounting the behavioral challenges she faced with a child whose parents were going through a divorce. “They were separating and didn’t tell us. The boy literally went from being a very sweet child, very loving, to not wanting anyone near him and lashing out,”

Accept constructive criticism.

“Teachers can be attuned to some difficulty a child is having. When parents are confronted with this information, oftentimes the parents are either in denial or say that the child will simply grow out of it,” said David Raye, owner of The Goddard School in Third Lake, Ill. Since early interventions can make a big difference in social, emotional, and academic growth, Raye finds it frustrating when parents shrug off suggestions. Children fare better when teachers and parents work together to troubleshoot problems as they arise."

Get involved and show interest in your child’s work.

Particularly irksome to Day care workers is a parent’s apathetic response to a child’s art projects or literacy milestones. “What really upsets me as a teacher is the lack of interest a lot of parents show in what their children are doing,” Arbuckle said, noting that parents often let their kid’s artwork pile up in their cubbies, or toss it in the dustbin. “Take it home, display it, and then rotate it around,” she said. “It may look like a scrap of paper, but the kids are really proud of it.”

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